April 21, 2007

Ethanai vidhangalil manidhargal

Filed under: Life as I know it — Celia Rexselin @ 10:50 am

A woman standing on the middle of the road trying to cross and go past…

1) Most men on cars/bikes/buses go past without caring.
2) Few men hesitate, wonder whether they might need to stop (and thereby lose their precious few seconds) but don’t stop coz no one else does the same.
3) Few men don’t know what to do. Should they stop? Should they move? The driver coming behind these peoples’ vehicle would have a helluva time.
4) Few men stop, and then wave at the woman.. “asking her to hurry”. After all, they have a done a great deal of service and the woman shouldn’t be delaying their time.
5) Few men stop, stare and smile at the woman. The woman walks past, they keep staring.. Other vehicles start honking.
6) Few men, stop, smile. The woman walks past. They go their way…

Same road crossing.. same woman.. same time of the day..

(P.S : The word men has been generalized here. The same can happen with woman drivers and when a man is trying to cross. Thank you Aparna, for pointing this out.)



  1. Do you really think only men do all this? Apart from the last two points of course. I don’t think most people care about who is waiting to cross the road. They think that their work is only the most important thing in the world and go without caring to stop and give way for a person to cross the road. It doesn’t matter to them whether it is a woman or a man.

    Comment by Aparna — April 21, 2007 @ 12:34 pm | Reply

  2. @ ALL : Aprarna ku oru ‘O’ podunga pa please!!

    @ Bindu: yen yedhuke? yeppadi unalamuttum ippadi yellam yosikamudiyuthu??huh???lol

    Comment by Nanyaar? — April 21, 2007 @ 9:04 pm | Reply

  3. Courtesy? that too road courtesy?? that too driving courtesy??? Bindu you must be kidding.

    I drive therfore I am. Who cares?

    10 days back, my uncle(bit distant relative) slipped and fall off on the road due to an invisible bump in saligramam area of chennai. He was finding it difficult to raise as his hand got broke. He was pleading for people around him to lift him, in vain and was lying there for more than 5 minutes. Finally a broken-voice pleading made one guy to come and lift him up and my uncle reached home with pain – both in his hand and heart.

    Aparna’s point and Bindu’s correction are nice to see.

    A trivia here:
    Do we know man/men, originally supposed to be a gender neutral one? It was suppose to give gender meaning when prefixed with “WO” and “HE”. But slowly it “HE” of heman (or hemen) disappeared. But people still retained men/man to represent both sex in their communication and we should take gender neutral in such context unless it specifically mean otherwise.

    I remember reading (or listening to) this trivia somewhere and have tried to reproduced here.

    Comment by Cacaphonix — April 27, 2007 @ 3:45 am | Reply

  4. @cacaphonix – No kidding!! Am not asking the drivers to stop for a soul in a busy hour national highway. (Though I would like it).

    few months back, near velachery (main road), a doctor met up with an accident and was lying on the road unattended for two hours. He died mostly of blood loss and exhaustion.

    The accident happened at around 6:00 PM in the evening and the road is usually never deserted. The point is, No one cared!!

    At times, a little out-of-the-way courtesy can do a lot of wonders to a needy person. My example post is very trivial.

    @nanyaar – unnaa maadhari driversaa vechukkittu naan enna seyya 😀

    @aparna – Inga oru point!! oru woman cross pannaavaadhu konjam janam niruthudhu. Pasangalukku adhu kooda kedayaadhu. Don’t know why men would despise their own community.

    Comment by Bindu — April 27, 2007 @ 9:35 am | Reply

  5. indians never follow a rule. woman or man it doesnt matter,
    motorists not stopping for pedestrian even in zebra crossing,
    pedestrain crossing even though there is a green signal. all happens in india.

    ithellam motorists vaazhkaila sagajam.

    Comment by sami — May 11, 2007 @ 5:41 am | Reply

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