March 5, 2006

I need guidance

Filed under: Life as I know it — Celia Rexselin @ 5:23 pm

Till now, I had always chosen the easy way out.. Be it a project, relationship, transport or even nature!! Whatever comes easy would be my choice.. For example, I never thought twice to get into an auto to go to a place.. I would never even go and stand for a bus for ten minutes.. This attitude of mine was questioned by a fellow friend when she was casually remarking on how she was spending and how she needs to save..(well, its not she! but my conscience which questioned)

And so, I thought that I should start considering buses too.. After all, I too can save a lot of money if I commute by bus. To implement this, I decided to go to my class today by bus and went to Velachery Terminus.. The very reason why this post is read by you is because of what I saw there.

Two children ( I feel ashamed to say them as beggars) were asking for money to every Tom, Dick and Jane. I know that this is NOT NEWS to any Indian. Their hair were more like rags and their clothing seemed as if they had been dipped in dust for 1 month. Some were giving them money and some were shoving them away. They came near me.. It seemed evident that they don’t speak the language I am familiar of… Its not Malayalam or Tamil or hindi or not even any remotely recognizable language.. But they could understand Tamil very well.. and when they were begging, they spoke in tamil and when they were communicating between themselves, they spoke this tribal language..

If it had been an usual situation, I would have given them some change and would have got satisfied with it. (I am reminded of the conversation I had with fellow friends… now).. But today, I wanted to be different.. I bent down and asked the female, as in where her relatives or mother was… She said that she had no one and pointed to heaven!!.. She said that she hadn’t eaten for 3 days and wanted 50 paisa from me.
I didn’t know what made me say that!! But that was the question I asked her next. “If I take you to an ashram, there they’ll feed you properly, make you learn and you can have a better future. Would you come with me?”. To my astonishment, she said “NO”. She said, please give me 50 paise or 1 rupee coin… Thats more than enough…

I don’t know what I did wrong here.. but am wondering what made this girl say no.. Would it be possible that she didn’t believe me? I hardly suspect so.. I really don’t look like a kidnapper.. If we were to really bring a change to these people, what should be done? Is there any government or service organisation waiting to help eliminate begging? If so, it would be nice if they put some guidelines to the general public here.. People who won’t believe an individual would certainly believe in an organisation..
And finally, I did wait for 1 1/2 hours for the elite 29 N and it never came… I came back home and finished a partly completed design.



  1. I have also been wondering for a long while.. my dad works part time for a NGO which involves in works like this and i have heard stories told to my dad of people who have come in for help and people who have refused to get any help at all….

    The thing is Trust, a lot of bad things have been happening in the name of Service… probably thats why people dont want to try any more.. or else those people are so used to begging so much…. that they wud rather beg than have a better life

    Comment by Nanyaar — March 5, 2006 @ 5:53 pm | Reply

  2. Its not the NGO’s are taking care of them. When an NGO (genuine one) had to take a kid into it org. it has to go lot of formalities, that too when it comes to adopting gals. This is all because of few fraud people claiming themself as an voluntary organisation. And one more pain for them, the child may run away and it will become an offense for the NGO.
    One thing which we can do, we can sponsor a child who was already adopted. By doing this, they wont be any legal complications. If you want to involve more on this, you can get acquainted yourself with the children and then talk to them about the future later. Bring them to a genuine NGO and sponsor them. This is second level.
    I know this because I have crossed the first level after enquiring with couple of NGOs. And would definitely move to second level. And also have an idea to move third level (that would be too premature for me now).

    Comment by Naren — March 5, 2006 @ 8:13 pm | Reply

  3. As nanyaar.. its the question of trust! thats come’s first. In late eities, govt of karanta.. took all the beggars inthe market places and else took… them and gave training for sellingthings and some other stuff.. After traing with a paltry some made them to lead a life.. most of them are now well settled down with something or the other.. what has happneded is that.. when those guy were.. other people from other states came into the begging business.. But this is a different story to waht you are looking out for..!!

    Comment by sujit — March 6, 2006 @ 6:18 am | Reply

  4. tat really is sad…. as pointed out, trust is one thing tat brings in the hesitation..

    Comment by kutti — March 6, 2006 @ 8:56 pm | Reply

  5. @nanyaar- Yeah, I would want to compile a list of such NGOs which offer to eliminate begging. I can then put their contact numbers in this blog and carry it with me too so that it would be helpful in a similar situataion in the future. Please let me know the details.

    @naren- Yeah, I do understand that there are a lot of formalities.. I have been through it too when I went to a particular centre one day..
    What is the third level? Adopting a child?

    @Sujit- Wow, I never knew this.. Kudos to such governments!! Wish we had something like this in Tamilnadu..There should be a way to do it. It would really help if a mass practice is done. Two hands are always better than one.

    @Kutti- Trust!! Yeah, It could be that.. And I also thought of another issue. The child’s parents or guardians might exist and might be the ones who force the child to beg.. If this is the case, then its no wonder that the child refused to come with me..

    And thanks for visiting my blog! 🙂

    Comment by Bindu — March 7, 2006 @ 1:23 am | Reply

  6. Yeah, its always nice.!! .. of late due to population explosion.. it has failed. And due to significant beggar or low income people are comming from north india.. things are really worse!!….

    And regarding adopting stuff.. check the CARA website.. you need so many fomralities.. and things are becomming better.. due to increase awareness amoung the people and there are lot of them comming forward to adopt. But, still the agency prefers couples as compared to single parents!.. and if you are a guy then things are much more tuff.. since the usually feeling is that mom can take over a dad… but not the reverse…!!

    Comment by sujit — March 7, 2006 @ 10:35 pm | Reply

  7. Dedicate yourself to the Social Service, get associate with the True Social Service NGO or start one.

    Thanks for visiting my blog Bindu.

    Comment by Naren — March 11, 2006 @ 4:31 pm | Reply

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