Someone commented saying that I will post the next part after six months.. He turned out to be partly prophetic. I am late by 1 1/2 years…

For more on the previous parts.. Refer part II.

The girl who quit the company is still in search of a job but at the same time trying actively for a baby now. Another girl has also quit the job.. No one knows what she will do next. One girl delivered a baby and is taking care of the child now.. One of these girls’s personal life is in such a turmoil that she doesn’t know where her future stands.. One girl’s husband is avoiding being intimate with her.. well, she is not the one who delivered.. but who knows what the future holds?

I think marriage is a parody which can become a melody in someone’s life and a tragedy in someone’s else.

Gone are the days when I used to sit leisurely in front of the comp and wonder what to write.. Now it is more like, whether I will ever get to be free again.. I think that would need another 15 years..

But its not just me. I see little activity happening on other reader’s sites..  Whether its being javits or ttm or curious.. or the popular writer prabh.. I think life has finally caught us.

Ivan is 2 1/2 months now.. Is very active these days. Smiles a lot and eats his fist as if milk is dribbling from it.. When he is bored of me, he keeps looking at the fan and talks to it.  Am enjoying every day as it comes… wish these days would never end.

At the same time, I notice that my full attention has drifted towards him leaving no time of DH.. But I guess, this is for time being.

How is everyone else? Also, how are you Ramya? Do you blog? I would love to read your writing…

Understandably,  the frequency of posts have come down.. but what to do? There is this constant attention seeker who wishes that I am at his side.

Anyways, I have named him Ivan.. that wud be his official name..  still haven’t decided what to call at home.. mommy says chellam, chella kutty, pattu kutty, appu kutta, bujji kutty, bablu and so on..

Any new pet name suggestion?

Shortly before I got pregnant, I had some problems with my monthly periods.. Instead of frequenting every month, it chose to stay with me for a whole month :O

I panicked. Who in the right sense wouldn’t? I thought I am going to bleed to death. Contacted a friend who put me to a doc.. Doc suggested a series of tests and thats when I found out that I have this problem called Insulin resistance or PCOS.

As such, I didn’t have PCO or what you would called as Poly Cystic Ovary. But I had the tendency to develop that later in life.. This syndrome is more of a metabolic problem than a gynaecological problem.. PCO patients have a risk of developing diabetes later in life..

Now what is this insulin resistance? You would ask me.. This is a very delicate problem with unknown causes.. But people affected by this syndrome mostly do not have any symptoms. When it shows, it shows up as a gyn issue.

This develops mostly due to heredity, lifestyle (sitting for long hours in front of computer), irregular food habits and ofcourse stress.

What happens to the body ? – The body goes into famine mode.. It thinks that whatever food that comes to it should be stored and doesn’t let the system to use it up. The blood sugars rise immediately after a food is taken. Usually our pancreas secretes a hormone called insulin which keeps these blood sugar under control. But for these patients, normal insulin levels are not sufficient. They would need higher levels of insulin and pancreas tries to keep up with this demand. Over a point of time, pancreas fails and diabetes results.

Now how does it affect the reproductive system? The insulin hormone has some indirect links with other reproductive hormones like LH, FSH and all.. These hormone productions aren’t sufficient enought to trigger egg production and maturation.. Coz of this, either one skips a period or the period doesn’t stop…

But there are grades in this too. Some have a severe case of insulin resistance and others have it in a milder form.. Whatever it is, having a regular food habit and healthy lifestyle is a must for young ladies if they want to keep their system in check.

Time is clicking fast and am about to carry a bundle of joy by the end of this month. But I realise that I have not done any justice to the blog ever since I got pregnant. A few posts from now, will deal with pregnancy in particular and the what i faced during this period..

When it all started, I said to myself, that am gonna cherish each and every day as it passes by. Though, mine was an unplanned pregnancy, we did feel happy when we found out that we are gonna be mom and dad. But that was only till I started puking.

When it happened, it didnt give me any warning sign. The name ‘morning sickness’ itself was misleading. For I seemed to puke day in and day out.. Every food that was steamed turned me off.. I lived eating only dosa and potatoes.. and for the terrible mornings, it was ginger biscuit that saved my face…

Here are a few tips to avoid puking..

1) Make sure you take frequent small meals throughout the day.. Keep a protein snack by your bedside. Just in case, you wake up in the middle of the night and feel hungry, you can have it.

2) Carry a lemon when you are going to office. I used to commute by bus and the whole journey used to make me sick to the core.

3) A tablet called doxinate is now prescribed by doctors to cure morning sickness.. This is sometimes helpful.

4) Try having ginger biscuit or cream wafers first thing in the morning.. Don’t have milk.. Have it later in the day.

5) Morning sickness is usually a good sign that tells you that pregnancy has a good grip over your body. So, doon’t lose heart… If you are one of the lucky ones, your sickness will go away in 12 weeks.. I had it till my 5th month.. After that, it was gone..

Wish that my tips helped you Happy pregnancy!!

Have you ever had a father – daughter time together? No, its not the usual advice you get from him or him confiding something to you. I am saying about pure entertainment. I had it for the first time today.

I have come home on maternity leave and today father shared about a movie called ’sound of music’ that he watched some decades back.. Well, i think he was very young then. When I expressed my desire to see the movie again, he went out and got it for me..

And we watched it together. Na, I should say that we are watching it in parts.. It is slow moving but nevertheless, I still like it..

Especially this one song I watched… Read the lyrics, they are too good..

[Rolf:]
You wait, little girl, on an empty stage
For fate to turn the light on
Your life, little girl, is an empty page
That men will want to write on

[Liesl:]
To write on

[Rolf:]
You are sixteen going on seventeen
Baby, it’s time to think
Better beware, be canny and careful
Baby, you’re on the brink

You are sixteen going on seventeen
Fellows will fall in line
Eager young lads and rogues and cads
Will offer you food and wine

Totally unprepared are you
To face a world of men
Timid and shy and scared are you
Of things beyond your ken

You need someone older an wiser
Telling you what to do
I am seventeen going on eighteen
I’ll take care of you

[Liesl:]
I am sixteen going on seventeen
I know that I’m naive
Fellows I meet may tell me I’m sweet
And willingly I believe

I am sixteen going on seventeen
Innocent as a rose
Bachelor dandies, drinkers of brandies
What do I know of those

Totally unprepared am I
To face a world of men
Timid and shy and scared am I
Of things beyond my ken

I need someone older and wiser
Telling me what to do
You are seventeen going on eighteen
I’ll depend on you

There is one more interesting piece to note here.. Dad said that one of the dance steps in this song was copied by M.G.R in one of his dance sequences with Saroja Devi. I forgot the name of that movie though…

The past year has been quite eventful.. Got married, tried managing home and work together, behaved diplomatically during contro versial issues and so much..

Incidents which I would like to remember:

1) Our honeymoon together

2) When I  fell sick for almost 2 months early this year and hubby dear was right there with me supporting me and taking care of me like a mom.

3) When I found out that WE are going to be mommy and daddy.

4) The first fluttering sensation I felt inside my tummy.

There are some other incidents which left a scar inside me and which I would like to forget. Those are better left unsaid.

Here is to you all, a very happy and hopeful new year..

I wish the new year blesses you with all that you hope for (trusting you that you are not hoping for something insane).

P.S:

I don’t have frequent access to web and so my frequency of posting will be sporadic, I will try to update more when am in my maternity leave…

One of my friends working for ABN Amro bank is quitting her job and wants to join some other company. She contacted me this week and was asking me which career will be good for her.

Her current domain is trade. Could anyone give me suggestions which will help her or give us some pointers to a good job consultant?

Yesterday, My friend and myself had a discussion on the recent attacks on christian groups. He was for bajrang dal group telling me that Christian organization were actually asking for trouble by forcibly converting people.

Some of the accusations were

1) Proclaiming that only their religion is right and every other religion is satanic.

2) Trying to offer services (education, health) and lure innocent people.

While all these accuasations are there from the beginning and some really happened in earlier centuries (say prior to independence or duing the christian crusades), I don’t think this really happens these days.

I started comparing the ‘Art of Living’ courses with this recent trend. My manager recently tried to tell me the benefits of this course as he had attended the same. After that, he said that he was a changed man and was able to leave the past and live in the present. This infact, can be called as canvassing. Can I say that he was trying to force me on to that course and attack? That would be really absurd.

As a fellow person, he thought that he benefitted from something and he wanted to share it and let his colleagues also experince. As such, the thought is noble. It is upto me to decide whether I really want to go to the course or not. Only when he tries to force me to join the course AGAINST MY will I can say that it is wrong. Isn’t the same happening in religion also? Can someone tell me what is the difference here that warrants attacks against monastries and nuns?

But I do have a word for those people who might have heard any such religious messages from christian priests. When you hear something, think over it. See whether they talk about just religion or whether about love, sacrifice, care for others etc.  See whether they have respect for others. Good pastors do that.  Christianity is not just a religion but a way of life. If you do like it, go for it. If somebody wants you to come to his church so that he can get all your offerings and money, then DON’T GO FOR IT. They are probably cheats. In those cases, ignore their message. IF they keep coming to your home, ask them not to come or otherwise, you might want to inform the police.

Wah, It really feels nice to blog from your personal laptop. Never mind the snail paced mobile internet. It is still worth the dime. Hope, that I can blog very frequently now.

You didn’t ask me which one I got. Got myself a black sony vaio vgn – cr363